Dharmist in Progress

"Everybody is a genius. But if you judge a fish by its ability to climb a tree, it will live its whole life believing that it is stupid." ~ Einstein

Why I Hate People Bashing

on May 22, 2012

Hate is a strong word.  I am fully aware of that, and try not to use it lightly.

I HATE personal bashing.

But Bethany, what’s so bad about it?

Well, let me tell you.

I had a boyfriend once who called me controlling.  Ever since, I have been terrified to point out things that I don’t like, or ask people to do things for me.  It has been years, but his voice is still in my head, telling me what a terrible person I was/am.

Now, obviously not every example is taken so close to heart, but every single time someone says something bad about you and you find out about it or hear it, it becomes a tiny worm that makes a home in your brain.  As these little worms form a colony, you can’t help but notice them nibbling away up there.

Long story short: self-esteem issues.  Everyone has them, but they all manifest in different ways.  Some people really do love themselves, but there’s always some problem, somewhere.

So what happens when I see or hear someone make an inconsiderate comment?

I get angry.  Not like writing a blog post angry, like HULK SMASH angry.

I understand that it isn’t always intentional.  But when someone posts a picture or status on Facebook saying “Such and such is stupid/ugly/full of it,” it is far from unintentional.  I saw these comments by the hundreds after the Amendment 1 voting in North Carolina.  I see them daily, as what seems like an ongoing battle between atheists and Christians.

How can anyone actually believe that bashing another party makes them any better than that party?

But Bethany, aren’t you afraid that this will make you sound like a hypocrite?

Not if it makes a difference.  So people, please be nice to one another.


Now back to being Bruce Banner.


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